The modern world, with all the rush and challenges, can be intimidating sometimes. If the stress becomes too much to handle, some people try to escape the world in several ways. These include alcohol, drugs, computer games, smoking, and sex, just to name a few. Unfortunately, these are not always healthy ways of dealing with the world, and such attempts to ignore the world can lead to poor self-esteem and confidence.
It is a good thing, then, that there is also a far better solution within our very own mind, and one which we can access through the use of self-hypnosis. And it is to create our own haven within our mind.
The haven can be anything you want it to be, because it is yours. You have the freedom to design your haven. It can be an ideal room, and grove within a virgin forest, or a seashore setting. It can be a real place you visited, or it can be made up. However, it is highly recommended that you include only healthy and helpful designs into your haven; those that will help you face the world and all its challenges, instead of making the gap between you and reality bigger.
From this haven, you can make positive affirmations that will help you face the challenges or problems of the world, or you can simply rest and feel safe within the setting. To make this haven, you must have an idea what makes you feel safe and strong. Write a description of this place, or draw or paint it, if you are so inclined. After this rough sketch, you need to enter into deep relaxation through self-hypnosis.
After making sure you would not be disturbed by people or electronic devices, sit in a comfortable position with your back straight. Close your eyes, breathe deeply twice, and then breathe normally. Imagine there is relaxing wave starting from your toes going up slowly to your legs, thighs, hips, crotch area, belly, torso and shoulders. Feel the relaxing wave flow down your arms and fingers, and back up your arms, to your shoulders and then up your neck, face and head, relaxing each and every muscle in your body.
Once you feel completely relaxed, imagine you are on top of a staircase with ten steps. Feel each foot land on each step as you go down. Once you reach the last step, imagine a door in front of you. Let your subconscious mind decide what it looks like. See your name on the door, and then open it.
Now imagine that you are looking at the haven that you have designed beforehand. Sit down, relax, or make an affirmation of strength or courage. Do what you feel within this safe environment. It is all yours.
From here, it is all up to you. You can invite any significant or respected person into your haven and ask them for help in solving your problems. You may be surprised at the answers that you will receive.
You can end the self-hypnosis exercise by simply going up the stairs, counting from one to five, and affirm that you are aware and healthy.