Death is our regular companion. Still, it does not prevent us from feeling pain and deep anguish when a beloved passes away. The death of a family member changes our perspective about life; this time, we think it is very precious and fragile. When a loved one dies, we cannot avoid wishing that we could somehow turn back the clock and bring our loved one back.
It is never easy to bear that your beloved is dead and will no longer be with you. Always, there is nothing that could replace the memories or the part that a departed loved one played in your life.
The seasons continue shifting even after your loved one has been laid to rest, and you find yourself gathering up the fragmented pieces of your life. You grieve for your loss - a special individual who was once an important aspect of your being is already gone.
Grief can quickly overwhelm people who have lost someone close to them. Taking action is one of the manners by which to deal with the grief that threatens to drown a person. In doing this, the departed loved one's life can be remembered and celebrated accordingly.
Holding funeral services is a manner of taking action to confront one's grief; it creates a tangible memorial for your departed loved one. Giving tribute to the dead is part of almost all cultures in the world even during ancient times. Commemorating the lives of those who passed away creates a sense of comfort and solace for who are left behind.
Several ways of commemorating the life of the departed loved one is the grave marker, specially engraved with loving messages from you; art work or musical compositions personally created by you can also be endearing items of commemoration; or you could opt for a gathering at a specific place with a select friends who can contribute their best memories of the beloved who has passed away - with laughter and tears all around.
The grief that one feels in the passing away of a loved one could not be compared to how other individuals would experience it. Be tender with yourself and permit yourself different ways of processing your experience. If you are an artist, you can channel the sorrow you are going through by painting, writing stories and poems or by composing your own music.
At this time of grief and mourning, it is helpful to have friends and family members around who are aware of what you are going through and could provide their gentle support.