"Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you."
We all do it or have done it at some point in our lives. We compare ourselves to others and gauge where we are based on what we observe them to be doing. If this was simply an observation, that would be one thing.
But in comparing ourselves to others, we often end up judging ourselves. There's no one worse to judge!
If you have ever noticed, it doesn't matter how many people are on your side, cheering you on. If you can't get on your own side, you never get past "go."
The thing about comparison is that there is never a win. How often do we compare ourselves with someone less fortunate than us and consider ourselves blessed? More often, we compare ourselves with someone who we perceive as being, having, or doing more. And this just leaves us coming up short.
But our minds do want to quantify. Our minds want to rank and file and organize information. Our mind wants to know where we fit into the scheme of things. So we need to give it something to do.
So, instead of training it to stop comparing altogether, why not simply redirect the comparison to a past and a present self and keep the comparison within?
We are always becoming more. Who you are today is a result of the decisions you made yesterday. We are always in a state of creation. We decide and then we decide again, and the direction is always toward expansion. It is our human nature to expand. So, when you catch yourself comparing yourself to another, stop for a moment and re-direct the thought.
Instead of submitting to the temptation to compare yourself to someone else, ask yourself a few questions instead. What are you doing today that you couldn't have done five, three, or even one year ago? How have you stepped out in the last year that you might have found inconceivable before? What new decisions have you made or what new actions have you taken that have resulted in you moving in a new direction in your life? What are your wins this year, compared to last year at this time? How has your life improved? How have you improved? What have you done recently that you never thought you could do?
What negative behavior have you stopped engaging in, that you never thought you could quit? What positive behavior have you been engaging in that up until now, you have resisted? How are you doing more of what you said you were going to do and shown up more consistently for your own success? In other words, how have you continued to become a new and improved version of yourself? That's the stuff that counts. Comparing ourselves with someone else is an inaccurate and irrelevant measuring stick.
Few simple tips to stop yourself comparing with others:
* Recognize that comparing yourself to others is a bad habit. Although leaving bad habits takes time, but gradually you can leave it.
* Realize that everybody is different, because we are. It is universal truth and can be admitted easily.
* Stop being afraid to be yourself. On the contrary you should thank God to give opportunity to witness the wonderful creations of world, including you.
* Forgive and learn. It is the easiest way to forget the incidents which affected you and whom you are forgiving.
* Learn to deal with changes and embrace it. If you become a great lover of changes, you will stop thinking of all negatives.