Five Tips to Overcome Shyness

A lot of times the only thing stopping you from approaching that beautiful woman of your dreams is your own shyness. You know if you could just get to know her, she would see what a great guy you are and how much you have to offer, but you just can't get past your initial shyness in meeting someone new.

This is more common than you think. It is a shame that there are so many great people out there who we never get a chance to know because they are too shy to meet someone new. There are a couple of key things you can do to overcome this type of shyness.

Adopt a Confident Persona

The first is to "fake it until you make it." When I say this I think what tends to work the best is to do a little bit of acting. I'm not talking about being dishonest. I'm talking about the simple idea of imagining yourself as a super confident non-shy person and sort of taking on this persona when you approach a woman. Did you know that many actors are incredibly shy but that they can get up on stage in front of hundreds of people and perform if they are playing a role?

Research Ways to Gain Confidence

Take a look at ways you can boost your self confidence. Read books, take classes, watch videos. It can only help. Also, you might want to take a look at whether you have common shyness or maybe something like social anxiety that might benefit from the help of a doctor. Therapy can be used to help each and every one of us improve our lives.

Seek Out Rejection

Go out and meet a woman with the idea that you will definitely be rejected. Make it your goal not to gain her phone number or a kiss, but just simply to approach her. Base your success on whether you can approach a woman and engage her in a short conversation. Keep it brief, tell her you have to leave in a minute but wanted to speak to her briefly. Then leave.

Analyze What Went Right and What Went Wrong

Later, take a look at what worked and what didn't. Look at what made you uncomfortable and also, what made you feel awkward. Take notes and record all of these encounters. Eventually you will see something that works and you will gain confidence from that alone. Successful daters don't make up new "stories" or "pick up lines" for each woman. They may tailor it to the woman or the situation, but usually they have found something that is genuine, specific to them and works.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Get out there and practice meeting people as often as you can. I'm not talking about just meeting beautiful women, either. Practice talking to all sorts of people until you begin to feel more and more comfortable in these types of social situations.

If you follow these steps, it may take a bit of time, but eventually you will find success in overcoming you shyness when approaching women.

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