Loneliness is considered a state of mind. It does not depend on how many people you interact with. You don't necessarily only feel lonely when you're alone because you can be overwhelmed with this feeling in a busy restaurant or a noisy football stadium or any place where there are a lot of people. So, what causes the feeling of loneliness? And how do you overcome it?
Loneliness is actually considered a form of neediness. When you feel needy, you yearn to feel some support or companionship that you are not getting. When your world doesn't appear to be as you expected it to be, you will feel lonely. We usually feel lonely when we lose something that is of great value to us, like a family member who died or a friend who moved away. When we are rejected by people, we also feel lonely. The reason why we automatically feel lonely in these situations is because we see the difference between how things are now and how they used to be. Another cause of loneliness is when we compare the happy social networks of other people to ours. When we see other people who have a good connections with the people around them, we long for the same thing and we instantly feel lonely knowing that we don't have it.
To cope up with the feeling of loneliness, you need to focus on the present. Do not long for the past. When you find yourself doing so, stop right away. Always bring your attention back to the present. You can never go back to the past and relive it. Accept that fact. Rather, look for the great opportunities that you have at the present. Take as much as you can to improve your life.
Be proud of yourself and be yourself. Do not pretend to be someone you're not. You aren't anyone else but yourself and that is a wonderful thing. You are unique so be happy and proud that you are exactly who you are.
Learn to spend time alone and try to enjoy it. If you are comfortable being alone, you will forget your compulsive need for companionship. Take long silent walks alone in the park or watch the stars alone at night. You'd be surprise how this can feel very peaceful. spending alone time with yourself will actually help you think better of the things that make you happy. Concentrate on those and you will eventually forget why you were lonely in the first place.
Take the time to know your life's purpose. Once you've figured out what it is, find time to involve yourself in activities that will support your purpose. When your life is directed toward an important purpose, the support of others will eventually lessen in significance. When you are involved in things that you need to do to fulfill your life's purpose, you will realize it will be much harder to feel lonely.
Be physically active. Join activities or sports that will keep you physically moving. the endorphins you release when you exercise will actually make you happier and we all know it's hard to feel lonely when you're happy.
Listen to happy music. Choose the kind of music that puts you in the mood to be happy. Turn up the volume and dance to your favorite music, sing to your favorite song and just let the music reverberate within you.
Lastly, know that your higher power is always with you. Always keep in mind that you are never alone. have a one on one conversation with your higher power and ask for guidance to get you out of your loneliness.