Marriages are difficult at times, but there are things that can be done to save this marriage. This brief guide offers some simple things that you can do to ensure your marriage lasts through the darkest of times.
The key thing to making it through the hard times is communication. You and your spouse need to talk. A major reason for divorce is that at least one partner never tells the other what the problem is. Or if they do, they can't find a common ground and compromise.
Not every solution is easy, so compromise is critical. Instead of forcing your partner to do something or not do something, find a solution that you both can be happy with.
Always resist the urge to argue. Always stay calm and do not raise your voices. If a conversation seems to be headed that way, take a break and come back fresh. Think about what you are saying because once you say it, you cannot take it back.
If it does get to that point, have somewhere safe to go. Use your judgment. Most of the time, going to another room and cooling off will be sufficient. But in the times when things are too hot, leave. Go for a walk around the neighborhood or spend some time at the residence of a friend. Go where you need to go to cool down.
You may feel the urge to try and comfort your spouse by holding them or grabbing them. Do not do this ever. They may see the gesture as threatening and react negatively, even if it was kindhearted. Keep your space and avoid this urge.
Seek counseling. If you cannot resolve an issue yourselves, seek outside help. A counselor can offer a different perspective and help mend problems. Remember, they have often seen hundred of partners who have gone through the same problems as you.
Saving your marriage and living happily together is important. Following this brief guide can help to save this marriage and ensure your happiness for years to come.