When it comes to marriage, a woman never dreams of the worst case scenarios. The dream-like qualities of a "Happily Ever After" life keep all the negative outcomes pushed well back in her mind. However, divorce is becoming much more common as the years pass. It isn't unusual for a woman to find herself 5 years, 10 years or even 15 years into a marriage, only to be faced with separation and, eventually, divorce.
How does a woman prepare for an event such as a divorce and the life that will follow? In reality, she cannot. The emotions and events surrounding a divorce, followed by a life after divorce, will be hard, especially if there are children. However, there are things that can be done to minimize the trauma of a divorce and allow the woman to move forward more easily.
First, there is the continuation of the woman's career. Many don't realize the difficulty of "breaking into" a working environment, even if a career was well established 5 years or 10 years ago. When a woman ends a career to stay home and then a divorce occurs, the woman literally has to start over - often back at the bottom of the "corporate ladder".
Maintaining job skills by working full-time, if possible, or part-time will allow a woman to continue climbing, or at least hold fast, to the level she has achieved in the working environment. This will also keep her hourly or salary wages climbing, as opposed to stagnating or possibly dropping.
When staying at home is more cost effective for a family, then a woman should be sure to keep her job skills current. Continuation of contact with the work place, open communication and networking with those in the work force, taking seminars and workshops to learn new skills and current trends are key elements to maintaining your worth in the working world.
There is also the possibility of a home business. Women today are finding that working from home is quite satisfying and a way to maintain their level of income. As skills increase, so do the profits of a home business. If a divorce should occur, the home business can continue wherever the woman would happen to relocate.
When a divorce occurs, money issues for a woman can become a mountain that seems impossible to climb. If there are children, there will be significant child care costs. If a career has been stopped and motherhood is the woman's only job, then wages will many times be quite low. Even with child support and alimony laws, oftentimes a woman and her children's lifestyle will suffer after a divorce.
So, the key to life after divorce for women is to always have a plan. Keep up with financial issues and know how to keep income and bills balanced and current. Have a way to support yourself and your children, if necessary, in the event of an ended marriage. As the title says - expect the best, prepare for the worst. Women who do will have a much greater peace of mind in the event of a divorce.