A breakup usually catches you by surprise and you go into a panic. All you can think of is getting your ex back, so you go chasing and begging him to take you back. That will only result in you getting rejected and hurt again. Instead, make him beg you to take him back. This might seem a little hard to do, since he dumped you, but it is not. You can have your ex boyfriend just as confused and desperate as you are right mow. All you need is patience, strength and determination and he will be running back into your arms.
I know you love the guy and may be a little hesitant to hurt him, but if you want him to come to his senses, you have to shake him up a bit. At this time he is sitting with a smile on his face and waiting for you to come screaming that you cannot live without him. He also expects to be bombarded with phone calls at all hours of the day and night. Your ex will check his email and text messages, expecting to see love poems and pleas for him to take you back.
You can do none of this. If you have been doing it stop immediately. You have to stop building his ego and wipe that smile off his face. Make your ex boyfriend think that you do not care and he is losing you forever and he will do the begging. Men always want what they cannot have, so you have to become what he cannot have. But first, you need to make yourself desirable again. You cannot expect him to want you back if you are an emotional mess. Show him the lovely and self confident woman you really are and he will be after you in a flash.
The first step in making him beg you to take him back, is to ignore him. Even better, take a vacation and disappear entirely. Anyway you do it, you have to make yourself scarce for the next few weeks. You cannot have any contact with your ex at all. Let him begin to wonder what happened to you and why you are not trying to get him back. During this time, get a new hair style and a tan. Go shopping for new clothes that accent your new look. Now that you are looking great and feeling confident again, go out and have some fun.
Get some friends together and hit the spots where your ex boyfriend hangs out. Just let him get a good look at you and then leave. He will not believe his eyes, but he will believe that he had better get you back before some other guy picks you off. Your ex will be quick to want to communicate with you now. A few weeks ago, he would not talk to you, so give him the same treatment. Do not take his calls and before long, he will beg you to take him back.