After a breakup, all you can think of is how to get your ex boyfriend back. What you should be thinking is how to make him regret the breakup and miss you like crazy. As long as he can sit with a smug smile on his face and watch you chase him, you will never get him back. By running after him, crying and begging you are playing right into his hands. He knows he has a hold on you and he can play around as long as he wants to. He can check out the scene, date other women and be sure that you will be waiting when he wants you.
To get your ex boyfriend back, you have to wipe that smug smile off his face and shake him up as if he was hit by an earthquake. Since he is ignoring you, play the same game and ignore him. Act as if he does not exist and move on with your life. Do not try to make him jealous by dating other men, but you should show him you can have a good time without him. Go on a vacation with one of your girlfriends, or visit relatives and friends out of town. Make yourself as scarce as possible and have him wondering what happened to you. You have to make him feel that you do not care for him anymore.
By showing him that you can live your life very well without him, you will be showing your strength and maturity. This will cause him to take a look at what his life is without you. At this point he will realize that he could be losing you for good. Your ex boyfriend still loves you and never intended to lose you. He just wanted to be like his buddies for a while and be free. Sometimes men begin to feel trapped in a relationship, especially if you are pushing for a commitment. He might be right on the edge of a commitment, but he wants one last fling. He figured that you would be waiting when his fling was over. By ignoring him and moving on, you have caused him to feel that you may be rejecting him.
Your ex boyfriend feels as if he is back where he started with you because you seem unattainable again. This will challenge him and he will go into his hunter mode. The first thing he will do is send an email and say he hopes things are well with you. When you do not answer his email, your ex boyfriend will be more anxious and he will call you. Now that you have him chasing you, do not let up. Be unavailable for a few more days and then call him back. Make sure you have a grip on your emotions because you cannot cry now. Hang in there tough and when he asks you to meet him for a talk, do not give in too easily. Tell him to let you think about it and let him sweat and regret the breakup a couple more days. Then you can call him back and arrange a time and place to meet.