The most urgent thing on your mind after a breakup is getting your ex back fast. So, you start calling him night and day at all hours and he just ignores you and you end up hurting more than ever. Since chasing him did not work, you try parking near his place in the hope that you can grab him and make him talk to you. Your next move is to bombard him with emails and text messages containing love poems and begging him to love you again. All of this hard work, loss of pride and dignity will only push your ex boyfriend farther away from you. If this sounds like what you have been doing, you need to stop it immediately.
You need to learn how to let him do all the work to get you back, while you have fun. If you think this is impossible, since he broke up with you, you are dead wrong. As long as you continue to harass your ex boyfriend, you will never get him back. Yes, he broke up with you and you think you have to give him a reason to want you back. By thinking that, you are absolutely correct. You do need to give him a reason to want you back, but you are doing it the wrong way. A person always longs for what they do not have or for something they had, but lost. They cannot long for anything they already have.
If you make your ex boyfriend think he has lost you, he will want you back. That is human nature, we want what we think we cannot have. So, you will have to make your ex think you do not want him anymore. To accomplish this, you have to ignore him and have no contact with him at all. Act as if he does not exist and move on with your life without him. Reconnect with your family and use their love and support to rebuild your confidence. Occupy yourself by doing things that you always wanted to do. Take up a hobby or do volunteer work, this will give you a feeling of being needed. Go out with your friends and have fun.
These activities are the exact opposite of what your ex expected to see you doing. By observing you living your life so well, he will gain renewed respect for you. He will also begin to wonder if you still care for him. The old feelings of love for you will begin stirring in his heart and he will realize he misses you. This is making your ex boyfriend start to long for something that he had, but now thinks he may have lost. What do you do when you feel you have lost something you value? You try your best to get it back, and that is what your ex boyfriend will be doing. He will be moving heaven and earth to get you back. By doing this he will be doing all the work, while you have fun.