Looking back on the breakup, you wonder if there was something you could have said to get your ex back. Everything seems to be a blur and you are not sure what either one of you said. The fact is, that at the time of the breakup, you were so emotional you probably just cried. I hope you did not beg him or tell him you cannot live without him, but if you did, do not worry. What you should say after your boyfriend breaks up with you will change all that.
What you said and did at the time of the breakup is not as important as what you say and do now. But the first and most important thing to do is get your emotions under control. Keep yourself from chasing him and bombarding your ex boyfriend with phone calls, emails and text messages. This might be hard to do, but it will only push him farther away.
The only way to make him see his mistake is to take yourself completely out of his life. To appreciate and miss you, he has to experience his life without you. He cannot do that if you are constantly around. The best thing you can do is drop out of sight. Take a vacation or visit out of town relatives and friends. If you cannot do that occupy yourself with a hobby that has always interested you. Another way to take your mind off your own problems, is doing volunteer work. Helping the less fortunate is a good way of making your own troubles seem smaller.
All of these things will make you a much stronger and better person and prepare you for what you should say and do when your ex contacts you. It might seem impossible that he will be the one to contact you, but he will. Men fall in love from a distance, and this time without you is bringing back memories to him. Your ex boyfriend will be thinking of the good times with you and the problems will begin to fade. He will realize that there is a huge void in his life that you used to fill. Soon he will start to miss being with you and wonder if you still love him.
This will cause him to call you, but let him leave a message. By doing that, you can call him back and be in control. Be sure you have your emotions in check. When you call him back, after some small talk, he will ask you if you still love him. You have been waiting for him to ask you this because this is what you should say after your boyfriend breaks up with you. Do not use the word love. Just say you will always care for him and want to be his friend. That should do it, no man wants to be just friends with his ex girlfriend and he will not be able to rest until he has you back.