After a breakup, you are emotionally upset and your ex boyfriend is angry. That is not a good combination to put together. It can only lead to a further widening of the gap between you. Continuing to have contact with him by calling him at all hours of the day and night will only make him view you as needy and desperate. If you bombard him with emails and text messages, he may never have anything to do with you again. How can you make him regret losing you and come begging for your love? You put as much distance between the two of you as possible.
What you need to understand is the difference in the way men and women handle a breakup. As a woman you would like nothing better than to be able to sit down and talk things out. Even though you are in no emotional condition to do that at this time, that is what you want. Your ex boyfriend just needs time to himself to sort things out without being pressured. This should make it clear to you that you have to show the strength and maturity to accept the breakup and move on. Show him that you can respect his wish to be left alone and he will look at you in a much more favorable light.
To make matters confusing, your ex is expecting you to chase him and tell him that you cannot live without him. To make matters more confusing, your ex actually wants you to chase him and tell him you love him. In spite of wanting to be left alone, it inflates his ego to have you come begging. But these actions will never make him regret losing you. The only way you can make him feel this regret is to make him think you do not love him anymore. This will require you to drop out of sight and become a mystery.
Do not have any contact with him for a few weeks and occupy yourself with improving yourself. Take some night classes. Get a new hair style and go shopping for new clothes. This will lift your spirits and renew your confidence. Now that you feel great and look gorgeous, get your friends together and have fun. Your ex will hear about how great you are looking and the way you are moving on with your life. Since he has not heard from you, he will be starting to miss you and decide to call you.
You will be elated that he calls you, but you cannot let him know it. Be calm and treat him as you would an old friend. This will drive him crazy because he wants you to cry and be thankful for his call. You have to remain strong and end the conversation by telling him you some where to go. Doing this will show him that he is no longer at the top of your priority list. If you can do this and remain strong, you will make him come begging for your love.