When you are involved in a breakup, it is easy to become consumed with your own feelings of confusion and despair. You forget your ex may be feeling the same way. You are wondering how you can get your ex back and that will cause you to harass your ex boyfriend by constantly being in his face. If you want your ex boyfriend back, you will have to give him a chance to miss you. He cannot possibly miss you as long as you are always around. This means that you should make yourself scarce.
Take a vacation or visit out of town relative and friends. This will help you get your emotions under control and give him time to sort things out. When they are angry, men need time alone to sulk and feel sorry for themselves. By interrupting this time you only make it last longer. So stay away from your ex and have no contact with him at all for a while. Doing this will give him the chance to experience what his life is like without you and he will find that he does not like it.
During this time you might think of getting back with your family again. They will welcome you with open arms and their love and support will help rebuild your confidence. Take up a hobby or some night classes. Do things you always wanted to do. The main thing is to think of what will make you happy and keep your mind off your ex. Go out with your girlfriends and have fun. Your ex boyfriend will be aware of these activities and will wonder if you still care for him. He will remember the good times you had together and want them back.
When he begins to yearn for you again, he will miss you so much it will hurt to think of you. He will begin regretting his decision of breaking up with you. All of these things will make him be the first to make contact. This is what you want. Instead of you chasing him, you want him to chase you again, as he did at the start. His first attempt to contact you will be by email. He will just ask how you are doing and leave it at that. This is his way of seeing where he stands with you. If you do not answer him, he will be concerned that you might have another guy.
This will force to call and ask you to meet hi for a talk. Of course, you will want to jump at the chance to be with him again, but do not appear anxious. It will be hard to do, but tell him you have a lot going right now and you will have to get back to him. This shows him that he is no longer your top priority and he will have to take his turn. Do not discourage him by making him wait too long. Call him back in a few days to arrange a place and time.