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Manage Rejection When Dating With HIV And Turn It To Your Advantage

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Anyone who has been dating with HIV or AIDS will tell you just how difficult dating can be, particularly commencing new relationships. Excitement and confidence, both emotions which should be present, become overpowered by the prospect of rejection.

No one enjoys being dumped, this goes without saying. Although if it was due to your own fault - either you said or did something which resulted in your dumping - then at least you know that you have the ability to rectify this for next time. Being dumped because you have AIDS or are HIV positive is something which is not under your control however.

This is why some people who have HIV or AIDS give up dating altogether. In order to protect themselves from further rejection and pain they remain single and unhappy. This situation seems more acceptable than dating with HIV. However they are missing the bigger picture.

It is very important therefore to see what is going on when you suffer rejection due to your condition. In order to do this you must keep in mind the fact that sadly not everybody is accepting and broad-minded. Most people fear things they do not understand, so it is vital to ensure that when you disclose your condition that you try and dispel this fear.

Obviously this will not help make rejection when dating with HIV any easier, but it will show you something that is very important indeed. And that is that this person is not the one you are seeking. You are not compatible in thoughts or feelings. They are not that into you.

You see when you are really fond of a person, you do not care what sort of baggage they bring with them. You love them for their differences and for who they are. You love the complete them and everything that goes into making them as they are. Examples are everywhere of this; mixed marriages, ex criminals and people with disfigurations and disabilities finding love and also those with AIDS or HIV.

Being told that you are dating someone who is HIV positive or who has AIDS will obviously come as a shock. People on hearing this disclosure should be full of questions. However as long as all consequences are completely discussed, if their feelings were one hundred percent genuine they will still feel for you after the revelation. Plus ensuring that you are completely honest and upfront with your explanations will go considerably in your favour.

Everyone wants to be loved and everybody has that right. Therefore never ever let your AIDS or HIV condition make you feel ashamed or that you have foregone this right. You still have so much to offer to a relationship. You are an attractive and endearing person with so many wonderful qualities. Anyone picked by you to be their friend is so very fortunate. Hence make sure that you pick people who are in turn worthy of you! Never settle for less.

Other's reactions cannot be controlled. But you have the ability to control your reaction to any rejection that does come your way. Do this by remembering that this person was not right for you anyway. Your AIDS or HIV condition has allowed you to find this out earlier in the relationship than would normally have been the case.

Therefore relish the fact that dating with HIV or AIDS means you have an easier way to test the relationship and gain insight into your potential partner's inner being. Rejoice in the fact that for each relationship that ends, the real true relationship is one step closer to being revealed.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR: ALISON PULLEN
This article is contributed by Alison Pullen from the HIVMatch Publishing Team. She works together with founders Richard and Nigel and writes dating/relationship articles. You can find more about HIV Dating and HIVMatch by visiting their website.

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