When a breakup becomes nasty and hurtful words are thrown around, it can leave you with a feeling of guilt. This causes you to become desperate to get your ex boyfriend to forgive you. But, you are only thinking of your part in the breakup. Think of the part your ex played in the problem and the heated words he threw at you. It takes two to make a relationship and two to cause a split. So instead of rushing after him and trying to get him to listen to an apology, start thinking of yourself.
Do not present yourself to him as an emotional wreck. This will only make him see you as needy and desperate and he will lose respect for you. Take comfort in the fact that your ex boyfriend still loves you and wants you back in his arms. Right now, he is too upset to realize it. If you chase him, call him and send emails relentlessly, he will never come to realize it. The more you harass a man, the farther he will pull away from you until he is gone for good.
The best thing you can do for yourself and your ex boyfriend too is get your emotions under control. Show your ex that you have the strength and the maturity to accept the breakup and move on. Your family, that you might have been neglecting during the relationship, can be a big help to you at this time. Their love and support will help you regain your confidence and self assurance. Go out with your friends and have some fun. Your ex boyfriend will hear about how well you are doing and wonder if you still care for him.
Being alone for a while will give him a chance to experience his life without you and he will begin thinking the breakup was a bad idea. When he starts to miss you, he will notice a huge void in his life. All of this will make him see that he still loves you and wants you back in his arms. Feeling this way will cause him to contact you. He probably will start out by sending an email and just ask how you are doing. This is to test the water and see how soon you will answer him. If you answer too quickly, he will know that he has nothing to worry about and he can take his time. So, do not answer it at all and force him to call.
When he calls, he will probably suggest that you meet for coffee and have a talk. You do not want to appear too anxious, so tell him this is not a good time. Tell him you would love to talk to him, but you will have to call back in a few days to arrange a time and place. This keeps you in control and makes him be the one coming to you. This is as it should be since he broke up with you and he needs to know that you deserve his love and respect.