When the man you love tells you the relationship is over, nothing can describe the panic and confusion you feel. This is the man you were expecting to have a bright future with and now he is gone. You had no idea he was unhappy and now you do not know what to do. You are desperate to get him back, or at least find out what went wrong. In this emotional state the best thing you can do is to do nothing at all. Anything you do at this time will probably make matters worse.
The thing you must guard against is falling into the same trap that most women do after a breakup. You see movies and television romance stories that show the woman running after the man. She declares her undying love and he takes her in his arms and they live happily ever after. That makes for good entertainment, but it does not happen that way in real life. Other advice will come from friends and relatives and they will tell you to let him go and forget him. The advice your friends and relatives gave you is closer to the mark. You do have to let him go, but of course you cannot forget him.
You have to make your ex boyfriend chase you again. This might seem impossible since he broke up with you, but it will be quite easy to do. Follow part of the advice you got from friends and relatives and pretend that you are letting him go. Have no contact with him for a few weeks and move on with your life. Spend time with your relatives to regain your confidence and go out with your friends to have a good time.
By ignoring your ex boyfriend, it is making him wonder if you care about him anymore. He was expecting you to be chasing him and telling him you cannot live without him. When he hears about the good time you are having with your friends, he will remember the good times he had with you. It will not be long before he notices a large void in his life and realize that it used to be filled by you. All of these thoughts will cause him to miss you and have second thoughts about the breakup.
In addition to missing you, your ex boyfriend will wonder how you could have given him up so easily and his ego will be bruised. You have made him feel as if he was the one that has been rejected and this will make him desperate. All of these feelings are pushing his emotional hot buttons and he will realize the mistake he made in letting you go. This brings him back to when he first met you. At that time you seemed unattainable, just as you do now. This presents a challenge to him and your ex boyfriend will be chasing you again. Now all you have to do is lead him on that chase until you decide to let him catch you.