If you have been thinking about trying to get your ex boyfriend back after a long breakup, this might surprise you. It could be much easier than if you had just broken up. The reason for that is simple. Time is a great healer and since it has been a while since your breakup, a lot of the bickering and frustration has been forgotten. Time and space also has a tendency to make the good times seem even better and dull the bad ones. If you are thinking of making the first move to date him again that should be good news.
There could be a small problem if you were the one that broke up with your ex boyfriend because he might still be resentful. If it was not too nasty and you did it a mature way, his pain might have dulled. If he broke up with you, it might make contacting him easier. He might welcome hearing from you. He might have thought of contacting you, but was afraid you might still be angry. Do not attempt to contact him by email or text message. This is not personal enough. The best would be if you could arrange to run into him and make the first contact face to face.
It should be easy to set up a lunch or coffee meeting to catch up on what has been going on in each others lives. The only reason he would refuse such a meeting is if he is already deeply involved with someone else. If that is the case you would not be able to get him back anyway and you might as well not waste your time. But that is not likely to happen and setting up the meeting should be easy. After all, he should be curious about what you have been doing and it will boost his ego to have you call him.
When you get together, keep things light. After the pleasantries and small talk, steer thing around to the good time you had together. Do not be afraid to let him know how much you enjoyed them. He will in turn bring up his memories too. This will get him in a nostalgic mood and he will long to have the good times back. Get him to laughing. Catch up on mutual friends, this will make him even more of the interests you share.
To get your ex boyfriend back after a long breakup, you need to let him know that you are interested in him. Do not be pushy, but use subtle body language to get close to him. Smile and laugh at his jokes. Keep eye contact with him and flirt. He will sense that you are coming on to him, but that is what you want him to do. You are wanting to start dating your ex boyfriend again, so do not be afraid to let him know it. He might be as anxious to rekindle your relationship as you are.