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asked on Mar 17, 2010 at 16:32
by   Jerling
I have been married for 7 years and had a daughter age 2. My husband has an affair with a woman I knew. My husband come home 2 a week and stay with this woman. He has no property and his income is around RM3000. He cant afford to support me in term of money and he never pay for house instalment and household expenditure.

I do not have the courage to divorce because of my daughter. Can anyone here give me suggestion on what should I do?
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answered on Mar 17, 2010 at 22:26
by   vkpc
Think of him as a friend, and not as a husband or lover.
Then you will feel better.
Hopefully he will come back and stay soon.
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answered on Mar 18, 2010 at 03:59
by   nicelady
From wat u wrote, i guess u r a career women. If u think that u r capable, i don see why u shud keep ur 'hubby' since he is not with u. Got husband but like no husband. If me, i will div and ask for compensate. Y want to waste ur time because of him?
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answered on Mar 18, 2010 at 14:02
by   vkpc
If me, i will div and ask for compensate
She already said he no money and no assets-lah.

Y want to waste ur time because of him?
The kids are more important than us.
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answered on Mar 18, 2010 at 14:06
by   Jerling
Yes, I am a career woman.
I am not sure what and how much can I ask from him. To keep the marriage for kid, I am not sure whether its healthy for my kid to have a daddy come home twice a week.
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answered on Mar 18, 2010 at 19:57
by   virnicia
Juz tell daugther that daddy is working far-far away.
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answered on Mar 18, 2010 at 20:27
by   Jerling
Something is not right to tell lie to kid. I prefer she know what is going on but I am not sure how...

Life is so miserable.
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answered on Mar 19, 2010 at 00:16
by   vkpc
Why should life be miserable?

Consider a different scenario,
where both you and your husband are getting old, fifties but your husband still loves you very much and finds still you very attractive.
But you are no longer attracted to him due to his age, boredom and you look down on him due to his low pay.
You no longer see any excitement in him, the very sight of him puts you off
He still demands sex every night and your duty as a wife forces you to oblige every night.

So, which is worse?
Your current situation or the hypothetical scenario?
You are happy or sad depending on what you make it to be, not what your husband do or did.
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answered on Mar 21, 2010 at 08:07
by   alyl
Dear Jerling,

Never stay in a marriage because of kids, you are sending out the wrong info to your kids. If you are unhappy in your marriage, then you need to move on and have a happy life with your daugther.
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answered on Mar 22, 2010 at 22:05
by   alyl
Sorry, I meant to say " you are sending the wrong "message" to your kid".
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answered on Mar 23, 2010 at 15:14
by   Jerling
There are want and need in life. I want a perfect family for my kid and I need a good husband. Now seen like i don have both need and want.

I have done my best for him and my kid and don know whatelse can I do.

I could not sleep every night because of over tired. I have to work day timea and take care of kid and do house work at night. I never complaint to him what I have done but he never appreciate what i hv done for the family. I cant see my future. I don know what and where to move?
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