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I want a divorce but am pregnant and jobless. Should I wait till the baby is born? How to ensure I get the child custody?

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asked on Dec 13, 2014 at 10:32
by   Janelle
edited on Jul 7, 2016 at 04:25
 
I am married to my husband less than a year and I am now 6 months pregnant. But his parents have planned on splitting us apart and accuse me with harsh words and threatening me. My husband just keeps quiet and yells at me for no reasons. He has cheated on me before. He threaten me to listen to his parents do what they ask me too.

I am 24 this year and he is 23. I quit my job after I got pregnant. Since then I have been living with my parents. His parents accused me and my parents which do not make me feel good and unbearable to live a married life like this. I want a divorce and he is okay with it.

But I want to know if we are able to divorce since we married less than 2 years. What about allowance and child custody ? Or should I wait till the child is born then only apply for divorce ? Please help me. I do not want to be apart from my future kids. What is the process of divorce? How much it will cost? How the arrangement of allowance as I am not working now?

If you are lawyer and think that you could help please contact me. Thank you so much! I need help indeed.
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answered on Jan 1, 2015 at 00:25
by   Hahahaa
edited Jul 7, 2016 at 04:14
 
@sam chong

It is this that you have has demeaned the hundreds if not thousands of fathers who have lost custody of their children due to dirty tactics advocated by not so professional lawyers, the starting point is when poor spouses were given encouragement to divorce.. No wonder there so few mediators and marriage counselors...
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answered on Jan 3, 2015 at 04:24
by   Sam Chong
edited Jul 7, 2016 at 04:12
 
if you want to sue Legal Aid Centre (LAC) for advocating divorce, it is nothing but the biggest joke in the legal profession because clearly there is no such cause of action and LAC has been helping a lot of poor and needy. LAC people give free consultation and representation not only to family law, criminal law, and employment law and even on refugee issue. Is is fair for you to 'hentam' them like that?

Believe it or not, as a lawyer, I had always advise my client, divorce is always the last resort as the children are always the victim and remind them why they are together in the first place. Once the decree nisi is pronounced absolute, it is only the beginning, not the end. I do give free consultation when people email me, does it mean I am soliciting client? Clearly things have become personal for you.

I don't know why you want to target me or Bar Council Legal Aid Centre (BCLAC), but if your wife had taken your child from you, and you think it is not fair, you can always email me or go to LAC to see if you can ratify the court order. You can apply to change the court order when there is a change of circumstances, for example she had remarried or even when the children are academic results have dropped.

The purpose of having this forum is for people to post question and to get answer that is sounds in law. Some question is just too sensitive, it is easier to email directly than telling the world on internet how bad your wife or husband is.

If you had done research on me, you would have figure out I am a lawyer that do quite substantial of pro bono and legal aid works. There are lots of lawyers that are blood sucking but I don't see that lawyer label coming for me.

I did not hide behind anything or using different nick name to condemn others. The world is not as bad as you think and not all lawyers are so blood sucking. Just be positive!
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answered on Jan 3, 2015 at 18:11
by   Sam Chong
edited Jul 7, 2016 at 04:24
 
She is asking for legal opinion not personal opinion without legal basic.

To attack Bar Council Legal Aid Centre (BCLAC) which is not an association registered with Registry of Societies (ROS) and wanting to sue them is nothing but still a joke . It is like suing the Soup Kitchen for giving free food to the poor. I am merely defending LAC which I continue will do so. Jannelle is entitled for free legal advise at LAC to help her understand what is her rights and duties, and should not be dismissed summarily by some of the commentator here.

Unlike some of us here just jump to the conclusion that there should not be any divorce just for the sake of the children. Let me be clear to you, in most of the cases, divorce is bad for the children. But in some cases, children are subject to abuse and neglect by either parent. In some cases, the wife or husband is always drunk, gambler or 'kaki foya', in that case, should the wife or husband just take it? Divorce might be the only way out in those kind of cases.. Some of you might have bad experience with lawyers, but have you get a second opinion (even from LAC which is always ready to advise both husband and wife), your divorce case might have a different outcome. I do give free legal advise for fathers who contact me.

If you think father is being oppressed under the Malaysia law, you can form an NGO or support group to assist those father caught up in divorce cases. Lobby for the law to be amended, providing emotional support if you are not legal qualified. In Singapore they do have this programme. If you are interested in helping, I welcome you to contact me. We really need volunteer to share their experience in some programme. You can help other fathers by reaching out.
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answered on Jan 3, 2015 at 22:51
by   Raymond
edited Jul 7, 2016 at 04:30
 
form an NGO or support group to assist those fathers caught up in divorce cases. Lobby for the law to be amended

Pertubuhan Memupuk Asas Ikatan Keluarga (PEMALIK) and MAFOR is already in Malaysia for years. The point is, why the need for support groups when in the first place divorces should be discouraged at the first instance or hint.
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answered on Jan 4, 2015 at 01:18
by   Hahahaa
edited Jul 7, 2016 at 04:26
 
@Sam Chong

If you are lawyer and think that you could help please contact me. Thank you so much!
She is asking for legal opinion not personal opinion without legal basic.


Point noted. Thanks for all the info. Do keep up with all the pro bono and legal aid works and be appreciated.

Bye..
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answered on Jan 5, 2015 at 02:56
by   vkpc
edited Jul 7, 2016 at 04:27
 
The father needs to maintain the child after divorce
This is bad advice to the mother.
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answered on Jan 5, 2015 at 15:24
by   Linda Khaw
I do not see any legal discrepancy of the above statement.
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answered on Jan 10, 2015 at 21:41
by   Jeff05
@Linda Khaw

You can't learn everything you need to know legally.
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answered on Jan 10, 2015 at 22:03
by   Anonymous
edited Mar 27, 2017 at 04:53
 
I grew up without a father, who was kept a mystery to me. There was a sense of uprootedness, things being one day here and the next day not; a sense anything could happen. Then, all of a sudden, my mother met my stepfather, and her life became happier, and my life changed, my name changed.

John Irving
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answered on Jan 11, 2015 at 03:22
by   backgammon
@Linda Khaw

Are you going to be responsible to maintain the child if the father refuses to maintain the child?
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