Blocking Variation Application of Dekri Nisi

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I shall explain in detail later as to why i decided to fight against my ex-wife who has made an application to the High Court to vary the T & C of the original Decri Nisi of which I was granted Joint Custody. Now she wants FULL CUSTODY by making baseless accusations and slandering.
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answered on Jul 27, 2016 at 17:05

I was sabotaged 

All the intimate Whatsapp msgs from her to me was deleted for the period Aug till 18th Oct. She was in my house very often and even have keys to my house as she stays overnight occasionall.

Now, i recalled that one time her profile suddenly disappeared from my phone. Being new to Whatsapp I thought that it was either my h/p problem or otherwise. Now I know the truth. Someone purposely deleted it..!!

My mistake for being too trusting on my ex wife. It was a plot all these while.

To all who has been following this thread..


Be forwarned based my nasty case.
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answered on Jul 28, 2016 at 03:37
@ vkpc, kiki, other avengers

Just a short note.

I have just spend a few hours trying to recover my old data.

All my FB accounts, emails acs has been hacked, and deleted important past whatsapp msgs, emails pertaining to her affairs with other men as well as her admission of affairs.

My children is now busy trying to recover the all those deleted msgs.
I have just recovered 2 old important msgs.
Have changed all passwords now except lawyerment.

So, her purpose of staying overnight in my house is evident now.
Stealing passwords and sync to her mobile device.
My children detected different IP's address accessing my emails and FB acs, whereas I was the whole day in my house with single IP address.
Both of them are IT specialists.

I shall start on my balasan as soon as I have put protective measures in place.
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answered on Jul 28, 2016 at 15:30
this case don't make sense.
why you did not divorce her if she had group sex with other men?
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answered on Jul 28, 2016 at 17:28
@ vkpc

Managed to recovered from gmail servers the following Whatapps msgs that was deleted.

Can it help in my case? Authenticated copies can be obtained and produced in court.


21/10/2015, 10:51 AM - Jeff Lee: Do u mine telling me the truth on how Ali response nowadays after his reading of my sms mgs since sunday?
21/10/2015, 10:52 AM - Jeff Lee: Do you mind?
21/10/2015, 11:04 AM - Viki: he dun talk to me
21/10/2015, 11:10 AM - Jeff Lee: Sms and watsap?
21/10/2015, 11:39 AM - Jeff Lee: ??? There shld still a level of trust and transparency between any companionship relationship between the two of us.
Would like to know what my competitor is doing.
I am forever the losing party.
21/10/2015, 11:40 AM - Viki: Hmm
21/10/2015, 11:40 AM - Viki: I have  no idea what he intend to do
21/10/2015, 11:42 AM - Jeff Lee: U intend to go and see him on fri night and mayb stay overnight?
21/10/2015, 11:42 AM - Viki: I dun know
21/10/2015, 11:43 AM - Jeff Lee: There is a very strong love bonding from u. How come dunno?
21/10/2015, 12:03 PM - Viki: I'm lost
21/10/2015, 12:13 PM - Jeff Lee: Lost on what doubts?
21/10/2015, 12:14 PM - Viki: I really lost..  I dun know wat to do
21/10/2015, 12:16 PM - Jeff Lee: If u go over sure he would sayang u and u hv show yr need for him.
21/10/2015, 12:16 PM - Jeff Lee: No calls sms wasap?
21/10/2015, 12:16 PM - Viki: No
21/10/2015, 12:17 PM - Jeff Lee: Since sunday 11am?
21/10/2015, 12:18 PM - Viki: Got sms then stop
21/10/2015, 12:20 PM - Jeff Lee: When? What message was spoken? What was yr reply response?
21/10/2015, 12:30 PM - Viki: No firm msg / response,  we suppose to talk but then.. 

(Do I sound that I am stopping or preventing her from seeing her lover?)

30/10/2015, 11:43 AM - Jeff Lee: The Q is u want to hv sex with him or not? Your urge.?
30/10/2015, 11:43 AM - Jeff Lee: He sure want.
30/10/2015, 11:44 AM - Viki: I got no urge..  Hahaha
30/10/2015, 11:44 AM - Jeff Lee: But u would give it to him if he request rite?
30/10/2015, 11:48 AM - Jeff Lee: Y. Or N
30/10/2015, 11:58 AM - Jeff Lee: ???
30/10/2015, 12:02 PM - Jeff Lee: Ok.. the answer is Y.
30/10/2015, 12:02 PM - Viki: Sigh..
30/10/2015, 12:03 PM - Jeff Lee: Yes
30/10/2015, 12:04 PM - Viki: Closure for me and him,  is it?
30/10/2015, 12:04 PM - Jeff Lee: No. ME.
30/10/2015, 12:04 PM - Viki: What for?
30/10/2015, 12:04 PM - Viki: U leaving  me and Alvin?
30/10/2015, 12:05 PM - Viki: Pls..
30/10/2015, 12:05 PM - Jeff Lee: Bye
30/10/2015, 12:05 PM - Viki: Pls..
30/10/2015, 12:05 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me
30/10/2015, 12:06 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:06 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:06 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:06 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:07 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:07 PM - Viki: I need your guidance
30/10/2015, 12:07 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:07 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:07 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:08 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:08 PM - Viki: I dunno how to start the BD job
30/10/2015, 12:08 PM - Viki: Pls dun leave me and alvin
30/10/2015, 12:08 PM - Viki: R u there??
30/10/2015, 12:43 PM - Jeff Lee: Dun worry.
I will never leave Alvin
I have a Fatherly responsibility to him.
I. Cannot leave u either as u have 50pc custody of son.
U have not been a responsible wife and as of now even as an ex.

(Pleading with me not to leave her, even kneeling down
when we met later. The son is the witness)


15/11/2015, 5:02 PM - Jeff Lee: Whereas my son & I got back a mentally scarred women..
15/11/2015, 5:40 PM - Jeff Lee: U had a nice time with him
Passionate kisses&hugs
Feelings of LOVE
Intimate sex
Oral sex
Thrill of lies & deceit
15/11/2015, 5:43 PM - Jeff Lee: What did we ever gained?
Heartaches & Frustrations ONLY..
15/11/2015, 6:25 PM - Viki: Ok
15/11/2015, 6:28 PM - Jeff Lee: Well.. of course it should be ,"ok" to u ma..

(Did she dispute her sexual encounter with hernuslim lover? which
she told me verbally? Accussing me as a "kaki pornografi". What is her 
morals as a mother? As a new chinese convert?
I was looking after the son on her nights out for sex.)


24/11/2015, 4:58 PM - Viki: Laughing at me??
24/11/2015, 5:04 PM - Viki: Or u wan me to settle  Alvin matters next year,  is it?
24/11/2015, 5:05 PM - Jeff Lee: Are all yr actions laughable?
24/11/2015, 5:06 PM - Jeff Lee: I am highlighting all the unfairness u hv accorded to me.
24/11/2015, 5:08 PM - Jeff Lee: Why bring Alvin into the pic? If want to settle Alvin things sooner or later, settle today. Why drag and give u time?
24/11/2015, 5:14 PM - Viki: 5 persons resigned in same month
24/11/2015, 5:14 PM - Viki: Settle today?? I cant
24/11/2015, 5:15 PM - Jeff Lee: U want to settle. I didnt mention or even hinted.
24/11/2015, 5:30 PM - Jeff Lee: U r the over sensitive woman.
24/11/2015, 6:00 PM - Jeff Lee: I do keep my promises unlike YOU.
25/11/2015, 12:13 PM - Viki: Hi,  if I travel, would you take care of Alvin for 1-2 weeks?
25/11/2015, 12:16 PM - Jeff Lee: Depending on where the daycare center in cheras
25/11/2015, 12:17 PM - Jeff Lee: These are minor issues. Accept yr traveling job. Suspect that this company hire u for traveling.
25/11/2015, 12:32 PM - Jeff Lee: Pls try to understand that I am not working now and is driving a 22yr old car which can break down anytime. Petrol costs to cheras is not cheap either plus traveling time and jams.
25/11/2015, 1:55 PM - Jeff Lee: So when and where u r traveling?
25/11/2015, 3:39 PM - Jeff Lee: You should NOT change clothes in front of Alvin.
He is 11yr old.
Even worse is change pads.
Alvin can hv sexuality issues when he reaches puberty time.

(1/ Asking me to take care of son
2/ Changing clothes in front of men is never a issue
3/ This proves that she was in my bedroom and son is a witness)


03/12/2015, 8:42 AM - Viki: Good morning...
03/12/2015, 10:52 AM - Jeff Lee: <Media omitted>
03/12/2015, 1:41 PM - Jeff Lee: Gud after..noon
03/12/2015, 1:58 PM - Viki: Good afternoon
03/12/2015, 1:59 PM - Jeff Lee: What u had for lunch?
03/12/2015, 3:04 PM - Viki: Mix rice
03/12/2015, 3:12 PM - Jeff Lee: I miss U..
03/12/2015, 4:13 PM - Viki: Ok
04/12/2015, 3:28 AM - Jeff Lee: Hi..
04/12/2015, 9:31 AM - Viki: Hi..
04/12/2015, 9:37 AM - Jeff Lee: Dream of u last nite.
Woke up can't sleep.
Stupid worry about u.
Nvm nothing urgent.
04/12/2015, 9:49 AM - Viki: OK..
04/12/2015, 2:12 PM - Jeff Lee: <Media omitted>
04/12/2015, 2:37 PM - Viki: Hi

(Do I sound as though I am an agressive ex husband? She writes
to me first)

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answered on Jul 28, 2016 at 21:40
@ bella

why you did not divorce her if she had group sex with other men?
1. this was her sexual orientation before marriage.
2. An unborn child is the result of a faulty "Durex" condom. Dun buy this brand..!!
3. A good father must be responsible to the unborn child.
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answered on Jul 29, 2016 at 03:34
edited Jul 29, 2016 at 04:36
by   jeff005
@ vkpc

Her afidavit says she has never been to my house in Aug 2015

Here is proof

My birthday 11 months ago
She was with me and the Famiiy. She gave me birthday hugs and kisses and present (seks)
Stay 2 nights overnight.

For lying as a Chinese Convert.. this will be her final resting place, Retribution..
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answered on Jul 29, 2016 at 03:58
edited Jul 29, 2016 at 04:52
by   jeff005
@ vkpc

The polis repot my ex wife lodged against me mention I gave my son a pc of bread for the day whenever I am in foul mood.

Does the following pic shows a deprived child

Taken June 2015
His step brothers and sister loves him like nobody business.
He loves everybody equally although he spend 3 nights per week with the family.
Why take him away and grant me only a few hours "visitational" right?
Is it practical? Looking at him thru the gates? No access?

During divorce I only ask for 3 nights, allowing her more nights.
But in practice I looked after him during schools days.
My time is more than 80% of the child's time compare to her mother who is always busy?
Why dislodged a 11 year old child from his comfort zone, already the divorce has affected his quality of life?
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answered on Jul 29, 2016 at 16:56
edited Jul 29, 2016 at 17:10
by   jeff005
@ vkpc

This photo is taken in my hometown during the March school holidays.
Every year for the past 4 years after divorced, I did the same thing, why
only this time she disagree? She was informed by the son.
That very day she lodged a report that I have taken the son away
without her permission. Sunday is my access time with my son.

Pic taken April 2016. Brother's birthday
Is the child happy with the family or not?
Why not allow child's brother/sister to have access /visitational rights if she get full custody?


I have hundreds of photos of the child bonding very well with the Family from 6 handphones and 3 cameras. She could not possibly deleted those pics from my children records although from my PC and camera, some have been deleted by persons unknown.

Btw, my Wechat conversations with her has been deleted..!!!
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answered on Jul 29, 2016 at 17:55
@ vkpc

I am now at the same time working on
1/ balasan afidvit
2/ submissions (can file in english rite?)

I shall focus on the following issues

1/ false polis repots without evidence
2/ son's and future "ayah" religious issues
3/ my personal finances (hoping for the case to delay longer for my business income from thailand to come in)
4/ Her teman lelaki immigration issues
5/ Her free sex adventures with documented records
6/ Proof of her current and future disabilty ability to provide for the son, both mental and  financial
7/ The main purpose of her applying for FULL CUSTODY
8/ Why she cannot have full custody and why the Dekri Nisi should remained the same
9/ Proof of the moneys I spend on her Degree Education before Marriage.
10/ Proof of False promises of reconciliation she made in August 2015 to me

Since her lawyers challenges me to show PROOF, my current exhibits will be more than her 60 pages of exhibits.
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answered on Jul 29, 2016 at 18:14
edited Jul 29, 2016 at 18:25
by   jeff005
@ vkpc

will this help??

26/10/2015, 11:39 AM - Jeff Lee: Yes?
27/10/2015, 7:22 AM - Viki: Good morning 😊
27/10/2015, 9:55 AM - Jeff Lee: I will not be using WeChat to contact u unnecessary. Pointless to get you into further misunderstandings with him since he can grab yr phone.
Likewise will not use FB to signal u anymore as u never even accepted me as a frenz. Ir is not bcuz of the new job that is troubling u but the miced signals from Ali. Sad to see u in such a pitiful mental state.
27/10/2015, 9:56 AM - Jeff Lee: Dtm
27/10/2015, 10:00 AM - Viki: Hi
27/10/2015, 10:00 AM - Viki: Please dun say that
27/10/2015, 10:01 AM - Viki: If I'm not accepting u ad fren,   I won't talk to u middle of the night
27/10/2015, 10:01 AM - Viki: Pls
27/10/2015, 10:02 AM - Viki: The new job really troubling  me as I'm not familiar
27/10/2015, 10:02 AM - Viki: I'm worried I can't crop  up
27/10/2015, 10:02 AM - Jeff Lee: I hv oledi accepted the fact that in our scope of companionship, u can accept physical intimacy like hugging and kisses BUT not sexual intimacy. So u hv to accept that our this arrangement will cease one day and I hv to leave you alone.
27/10/2015, 10:02 AM - Jeff Lee: Dtm
27/10/2015, 10:03 AM - Viki: Pls dun leave me alone
27/10/2015, 10:03 AM - Viki: Pls
27/10/2015, 10:03 AM - Viki: I dun know what to do
27/10/2015, 10:03 AM - Viki: Pls
27/10/2015, 10:03 AM - Viki: Pls
27/10/2015, 10:04 AM - Viki: Me and him is nothing
27/10/2015, 10:04 AM - Viki: Pls dun leave me alone
27/10/2015, 10:04 AM - Viki: I dun know  how to move on
27/10/2015, 10:05 AM - Viki: With my  life
27/10/2015, 10:05 AM - Viki: I beg u
27/10/2015, 10:06 AM - Viki: This new job is worrying me a lot
27/10/2015, 10:07 AM - Viki: Pls
27/10/2015, 10:07 AM - Viki: I dun know where to go
27/10/2015, 10:08 AM - Viki: I'm lost
27/10/2015, 10:08 AM - Jeff Lee: There is nothing anybody can do
U r too much in love
U r too emotionally involved with him
U hv open yr heart soul and body to him
U are at his mercy. Only he can release u from this emotional slavery.
27/10/2015, 10:08 AM - Viki: Pls help me
27/10/2015, 10:09 AM - Viki: Dun leave me
27/10/2015, 10:10 AM - Viki: I regretted take up this BD job which I dun understand
27/10/2015, 10:10 AM - Viki: Pls
27/10/2015, 10:11 AM - Jeff Lee: I hv given opinions which u hv never followed at all. What more else can I say? Just can only wait for the day he is tired of you sexually and dump u for another new victim.
27/10/2015, 10:14 AM - Jeff Lee: I am not leaving u
Neither am I abandoning u

(1/ This shows that she is the one who contacted me for help. "Pls help me" "Dun leave me" "Me and him is nothing" "I dun know  how to move on With my  life". "I beg u".
2/ She has working issues. " I regretted take up this BD job which I dun understand". She has accused me of interfering with her personal life and create bad working environment issues to her in her polis repot and filings in court under Oath)
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