Gambling is a Bad Habit Hard to Break, A Habit that Can Kill!

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Gambling is a Bad Habit Hard to Break, A Habit that Can Kill a Marriage Dead
By Terry Ross

Gambling is one of those increasingly common marriage problems that are often over looked despite over 50% of compulsive gamblers having been divorced. As with many bad habits, gambling has a real negative impact on family life with the habit often leading to serious financial problems as well as neglect of partners and children and sometimes proving to be a catalyst for abuse.

The National Gambling Impact Study Commission reported that more than 15 million Americans have a serious gambling problem often generated from boredom, a need for change, the adrenaline rush or as a result of marital or family conflicts. Gambling is becoming an ever increasing marriage problem and it's a bad habit that has serious consequences with regard to family and personal life.

Very few people have any kind of understanding of the devastating impact that the gambling habit can have. Gambling is one bad habit that if it grabs a hold it takes over your entire life, wrecks you marriage, alienates your family, leaves you in financial ruin and destroys your life. Like alcohol abuse, gambling is often a root cause for domestic violence and child abuse. Gambling starts as just a bad habit, something that you do when you've got some spare time but it quickly worms its way into your routine and becomes and all encompassing and hard to break addiction that rules your life.

The escalating habit has been made worse with gambling becoming even more common as a result of the onset of internet gambling. There are now around 1,700 gambling websites all vying for business and just waiting to encourage more and more people into the regular gambling routine. Online gambling is a really bad habit to get into with the 24/7 access from the comfort of your own home, the loss of the sense of reality when gambling away money and the ease at which the gamblers can add more funds.

Research has shown that online gamblers are more likely have the most serious gambling habits / addictions and the families of those addicted suffering a greater intrusion into their everyday lives.
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answered on Oct 2, 2009 at 22:46
Controlling Compulsive Gambling Habits
By Adel Awwad

When was the last time you visited a casino in a excited frame of mind, only to leave the casino in a bad mood because the majority of the bets did not go your way? I think this is an all too common issue which faces many players from occasional gamblers to the high rollers. Depending on the nature of the loss, there are different methods of approaching this issue and dealing with it.

First and foremost, it is important to remember that gambling should be regarded as a recreatonal fun activity and should never be used as a means of making money. When visiting a casino, say to yourself; "I am here to have fun. I am not here to generate an income. Whether I win or lose, I will enjoy myself and have fun. This is my only goal". If you visit a casino with the mindset that you need to make money and the bets don't go your way, then you will fail to achieve your objective and as a result, you will experience feelings of anger and disappointment.

Secondly, set a monetary limit for yourself. In other words, decide on how much money you can afford to spend and are willing to lose everytime you visit a casino. Once you set a limit for yourself, never ever go over that limit, so that even if you lose it, then it will not significantly affect your lifestyle because it was money that you can afford to lose.

Thirdly, try to take a minimum amount of money with you to the casino. If you have decided that you will only gamble $20 per visit, then perhaps you could take $20 and enough money to cover all of the other expenses that may come up. In other words, don't take $500 to the casino when you only plan to gamble $20, and leave all ATM cards and credit cards at home.

Fourthly, set a time limit for yourself. Decide on how often you will visit a casino and how much time you will spend gambling. This also serves as means by which to control one's gambling habits. It is a well known fact that the more time a player spends gambling, the more likely he/she will lose. This is one of the reasons why most casinos don't have clocks. If the player loses track of what time it is, then perhaps he/she will stay in the casino and play for a little while longer.

Fifthly, avoid drinking alcohol while gambling. This is due to the fact that alcohol can grossly affect one's sense of judgement and cause a person to gamble more heavily than he/she would have gambled otherwise. A couple of drinks to relax may be OK, but drinking to the point of not being able to think very clearly is not.

Sixthly, think of other recreational activities that you can be involved in. This is not to say that you should give up gambling, but perhaps gambling could become just one of the many recreational activities that you could enjoy. So instead of going to the casino on Friday and Saturday, go to the casino on Friday and to the cinema on Saturday.

Finally, if you find that you are still unable to your gambling habits and they are starting to take control of your life, then you should definitely contact Gambler's Anonymous and let them help you.
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answered on Oct 2, 2009 at 22:56
Information for Family & Friends

Why do people gamble?

Research shows that people gamble for many different, individualised and often complex reasons.

These can include: entertainment, the thrill of winning, the excitement of risk-taking, as a way of switching off worries, as a quick fix for financial problems, to combat boredom and/or loneliness, to relax and for the enjoyment of a comfortable, safe and friendly environment (eg a club or casino).

The initial reasons that may attract someone to gambling can change over time eg. someone who starts playing the pokies for a bit of a flutter may later end up playing to recoup losses.

Gambling may also take up increasing amounts of the gambler's time, attention and resources.

People do not become overnight problem gamblers. It happens over time.

When some one close to you has a gambling problem

Gambling - Is there a problem?

Not everyone who gambles encounters gambling problems. However, family and friends are often the first to get concerned about the negative consequences and to see the warning signs that gambling habits may be becoming problematic.

Not understanding why someone continues to gamble despite the difficulties can be frustrating and confusing - especially if the gambler downplays or ignores your expressions of concern about their behaviour.

This is partly because the costs or negative consequences associated with gambling (such as financial, health, relationship, work or legal difficulties) and the impact of these costs on friends or family (such as dishonoured loans, feeling pressured to lend money, worrying about the gambler's well-being and future, or feeling cut out of the gambler's life) can appear obvious to outsiders but not so much to the gambler.

What may not be so evident are the benefits or payoffs people can derive from gambling - and which can motivate us to gamble in ways that might seem counter-productive to others.

How can I stop him/her gambling?

You can't force someone to change their gambling habits. They make that decision them
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